Unsure about your next move? Here are 3 clues to listening to your intuition.
There are times in life when we feel stuck. Stuck because we don’t know what to do or what to decide.
Some questions you may ask yourself include: Should I leave my relationship? Should I stay in that job? And what if I leave that relationship or job, then what will happen? How do I know that I’m making the right choice? How can I tune into my intuition in order to make the right decision?
A few years ago when I was researching Women’s Health at Harvard, I had a creeping feeling that I was stuck. Stuck in the job I had always thought I wanted, and then when I had it, it turned out that it didn’t give me energy. In fact, it drained me. Coming home late at night or after working long weekends, I would easily become exhausted. I could barely do anything fun like going for dinners with friends, trying new workouts, or going to the movies. I simply didn’t have the energy to do any of it. I knew I had to start tuning into my intuition, otherwise I’d have regrets later on.
Below are 3 clues to listening to your Intuition that helped me along my journey. I hope these words support you as well.
Measure your energy levels.
Your ENERGY levels tell you whether you’re on the right track or not.
If in the morning your energy levels are say 80% and by the end of the day they have significantly dropped to about 30% or below, this is a sign! Everything we do in a day in terms of work, activities or relationships should GIVE you energy. It’s supposed to lift you up, excite you, nurture your whole being and give you the feeling of fulfillment. So that when you come home, you are energized, full of excitement and eager to share information about your day in your journal or to your loved ones!
Now, I’m not saying that there are never going to be things that are difficult or can drain your energy reserves. But, that’s okay. I personally do not like administrative tasks. Yet, I need to do them sometimes, otherwise my whole practice and business would go to absolute sh*t. And in certain relationships, there are parts that are more draining than others. But I know WHY I’m doing it. And this is the second clue: your WHY.
Find your Why.
Does the PURPOSE of what you are doing align with who you really are deep down?
We all came here with a gift. All of us are talented, gifted and brilliant human beings. We all have been given something to SHARE with this world, and it is hidden within you. It could be that you are an amazing baker, painter or yoga instructor. It could be that you are someone who seeks adventure and travels the world, maybe without the partner you are currently with because that is what you came here to do.
It is that gut feeling, soft whisper of the small things that excite you like the flyer you see on an art exhibition, a tango dance on Youtube or an article about the lives of digital nomads. Those things that excite you are not random. They are pointing you towards where you ought to go. They are showing you your purpose in life. All you need to do is be courageous enough to follow them. And this is the third clue.
Your ANSWER lies behind your biggest fear.
Since opening my private practice two years ago, I have felt the urge to spread my knowledge and message to even more women, preferably by speaking. But, there was one glitch: I was terrified of speaking in front of women. As a little girl, I learned that girls in groups aren’t always nice and that they can hurt you.
I felt like if I showed up in front of a group of women and was just myself, I would crumble into a hundred pieces. I was afraid that they would judge me so much, and therefore, I’d be in tremendous pain. But, when I actually started DOING it, taking the step to speak in front of a group of women and finally conquer the biggest fear I had, I was released from it. And the joke is, the answer of what I came here to do was right in front of me: to stand before a group of women and speak to them. It has made me happier than anything I can think of.
Similarly, breaking up the relationship that no longer nurtured me was terrifying. My ego didn’t want it. But, facing my fear and overcoming it has freed me beyond belief and actually opened more doors than I ever knew was possible.
Ultimately, there are no guarantees in life. There is just a feeling deep down that life can be different. Our intuition knows it. And it can be different. There’s so much in store for you, if you’re willing to show up courageously in the face of fear and uncertainty. Because it’s supposed to terrify you. If your dreams don’t terrify you, they’re not thinking big enough. So raise your standards, chase that dream and express all that is within you.
The world needs what you got inside.
You are so gifted.